How I’d Fix My Marriage in 90 Days

Marriage is teamwork—it requires continuous effort, reflection, and prioritization.

When relationships hit rough patches, it’s tempting to look outward for solutions, but real change starts with a shift in focus and intention.

If I had 90 days to fix my marriage, I’d approach each day with a carefully structured schedule to ensure I was actively contributing to the health of my relationship.

Here’s the detailed, hour-by-hour plan I’d follow:

Morning: Starting the Day with Purpose

Each morning, I’d wake up two hours earlier—before the kids or my husband, to focus on myself before the day begins.

This time would be used for a workout to stay physically and mentally strong, as well as for any personal work I need to accomplish.

By handling these tasks early, I’d free up more time and energy to focus on my husband and family throughout the day.

Remember: Prioritize your husband above the children.

After my morning routine, I’d make breakfast for my husband and give him at least 15 minutes of intimate time, even if it’s just cuddling him.

Start and end the day the same way. It sets the tone and tells your husband he is a priority.

This small act wouldn’t just help us connect, it would also help me anticipate how I could make his day easier.

Planning ahead would allow me to prepare dinner in advance, so when he returns home, he can relax and unwind without added stress.

Midday: Removing Distractions and Prioritizing Time

One of the biggest hurdles in modern marriages is distraction, social media, poor time management, work, and outside influences like friends or extended family.

I’d consciously remove these distractions by limiting social media use and focusing on better time management.

I have set times when I’m online.

Make sure you have a cut-off time and do not waste time doomscrolling.

By clearing unnecessary interruptions, I could ensure my efficiency.

Additionally, I’d adjust my schedule with our children to carve out specific time for my husband each day.

This might mean putting the kids to bed earlier, completing household chores and errands efficiently, and ensuring their homework is done on time.

Children also need their own list of chores.

Idle time leads to entitlement and laziness.

The goal would be to create uninterrupted time in the evening for us to connect as a couple.

Evening: Strengthening Connection and Communication

In the evenings, I’d establish a cutoff time for tasks so I could dedicate time to my husband.

We always hear, “Communication is important,” but we don’t always understand what that means.

It’s not just talking.

It’s intentionally focusing on each other and being heard in love, without distractions.

It’s building up one another, not tearing each other down.

Phrases like:

“We need to talk.”

“I don’t have time.”

“I need more help with chores.”

create tension.

Instead, I’d focus on expressing appreciation for his support.

Focus on the good, not the bad.

Stop the nitpicking!

I’d also make an effort to direct all questions or concerns to my husband, rather than seeking outside advice from friends or family.

There’s no need for girls' nights out or outings if your marriage isn’t strong.

Weekly Efforts

This is a big one:

Keep sex spontaneous!

I’d set aside a collection of his favorite outfits and make sure to wear them in the evenings when the kids are asleep.

At least once a week, I’d plan something for just the two of us—something active and screen-free, where we can laugh and reconnect on a deeper level.

Whether it’s going for a hike, playing a sport, or trying a new hobby together, the focus would be on building shared memories and strengthening our relationship.

Small gestures like these go a long way in making your husband feel loved and valued.

Simplifying Finances and Reducing Stress

Financial stress can take a toll on any relationship, so I’d review household expenses and find ways to simplify.

Cutting back on unnecessary spending, like eating out or excessive purchases, would free up resources.

Downsize where necessary.

For example:

• Going down to one car.

• Handling home maintenance frugally.

• Doing our own housework.

To contribute further, I’d pick up a flexible side hustle that doesn’t interfere with family time.

The extra income wouldn’t just help financially, it would also demonstrate my commitment to supporting our household.

Women also provide!

In Summary

Fixing a marriage starts with intentional daily efforts:

✔️ Wake up earlier
✔️ Be more efficient with my time
✔️ Be more attentive to my husband
✔️ Remove outside influences
✔️ Prioritize my husband over children
✔️ Dress up and prioritize intimacy
✔️ Put aside weekly time together
✔️ Simplify the lifestyle

When both the husband and wife feel valued and supported, most marriages have the potential to thrive.

As women, it’s important to stand on our own two feet while also giving back to our husbands in meaningful ways.

A thriving marriage isn’t about grand gestures, it’s about showing up every day with patience, effort, and love.

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